Module 6

Good Communication Takes Practice

Let's go through the scenario you chose from your journal one more time. Now you can self-soothe and now you have the mantra in place. You will be able to listen more calmly and hear your partner’s words clearly. You'll be able to focus on what they're saying without being overwhelmed by your feelings. And now here comes the really brave part: might you have contributed to this situation in some way? Is there some truth or validity in their statement/request, even a little?

Accept and admit your role in the matter. And just as importantly, admit your role in the matter to your partner. This will defuse a lot of tension and send a clear and positive message that you want to work with them for the good of the relationship, not against them.