Going Forward Together With Confidence
If your partner does want to discuss something with you, discuss a soft start-up with them before the discussion takes place. For you, Starting Gently means scheduling times for discussion that suit both of you. This will ensure that you don't feel ambushed and gives you a chance to prepare and self-soothe. This will make the discussion easier for both of you.
Be calm and be open to what's being said - it's rarely a personal attack
Help your partner in the conversation by asking them what request lies at the heart of this discussion. What are they really asking for?
Work together to find a way forward that works for both of you. Relationships are about mutual solutions, not compromise
Once you have decided on a way forward that is a good fit for both of you, act on or plan for it as quickly as you both can, from s space of love and friendship